Sitting. Thinking. Breathing. Doing Nothing.

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Just between a bicycle ride by the beach and a follow-up meeting with my meditation teacher. As I wrote in the Healthy Cookie: Unbaked, I am once again reminded that all healing comes in the time between doing stuff and I am again amazed at how busy I am in doing nothing.

The most healing part of yoga is at the end, when we lay and rest and let the energy circulate through us. The most healing happens in acupuncture when we lay and rest and let the needles high vibe the energy through the body.  The healing properties of our food come after eating, when we let the goodness do its goodness. The healing from meditation comes from slowing thoughts and letting space come in. Repair and recovery from rest, comes from actively and mindfully doing nothing and releasing to whatever is.

Doesn’t everything amazing come from the time we allow ourselves to relax? When we are relaxed is when we connect the best with others, when we feel the best, when we look the best, when we digest the best, and when we laugh the best. No one has ever once said to me, Wow Meghan, you are a glowingly radiant stress-ball. Please tell me how you get that tension in your neck, that broken out complexion, those bags under your eyes and those patches of thinning hair? That bloaty weight gain around your mid-section- so sexy- and that twitchy foot and those gnawed off finger nails. Mmmmm mmmmm. I want some of that hawtness!

Shah…. As if.

Happy and relaxed is where it’s at. Why do you think we always fall in love on holidays? I was once a certified expert in romances that end with an airplane. We fall in love on holidays because we have our relaxation goggles on. People just feel and look better without cell phones hooked to their belts,  and having eight hours of sleep behind them.

The moral of the story here is that never, ever, ever, never feel guilty for doing absolutely nothing because you work hard for that nothing and in doing nothing- well, that is where the magic happens. Doing nothing does not include cleaning out your closet, vacuuming, doing laundry, going to the gym or even watching TV. Those are all doing somethings.

Stopping the somethings cold turkey can be tricky for chronic doers so here are some activities that complement doing nothing:

  • Writing words for no one other than yourself to read
  • Going for a walk without a destination
  • Painting, crafting, beading without a product in mind
  • Drinking a cup of tea, not because it is healing in any way but just because it’s yummy
  • Laying on your back, holding your knees in and rolling from side to side just because it feels nice to massage your back.
  • Taking a hot bath without books, phones or computers allowed in there with you. Only lovers. You can bring lovers into the bath.

9 Responses to “Sitting. Thinking. Breathing. Doing Nothing.”

  1. massybird

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    Taking a bath with a phone or a computer? Now that would be a serious addiction :)

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  2. Alex

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    Yes!!

    Good tips too. I would add: Staring out of a window and letting thoughts wander. Daydreaming is a favourite pastime of mine :)

    If only conventional baths could actually comfortably fit two lovers. Lovers In The Tub is a nice idea, but it usually turns into Awkward Squirming And Sometimes Injuries In The Tub :(

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  3. Meghan Telpner

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    Awkward Squirming in the tub can be fun times too!

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  4. Andrea

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    I hope it’s all right to add crafting in the kitchen! This morning I decided to throw some veggie scraps into a pot to make vegetable broth. My apartment smells heavenly as I just sit and enjoy my tea (and Meghan’s blog, of course!).

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  5. Cindy

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    OKAY….UNIVERSE

    I hear you loud and clear

    yesterday…a work friend gave me a book to look at…”the art of doing nothing”

    This weekend Hubs strongly urged me to give running a hiatus until I get my batteries charged ” you never stop” he said

    Your post yesterday was a great reminder too..

    YES…

    and last night…while I was letting my yoga session’s magic sink in…(that part where you just lay still on your mat, eyes closed, soaking it all in….) WHAM

    lil JJ dropped his Magna Doodle drawing board on the bridge of my nose…I guess he wanted me to draw with him…

    either way…I couldn’t have been smakced upside the face any harder than that!

    I am resting. doing nothing is going to take some work!

    xoxo
    Thanks again for reading my tired eyes!

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  6. Deena

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    Great post Meghan! I have been trying to de-stress at night with my little 13-week bun in the oven, and it hasn’t been easy. I feel like there are a million things to worry about, from whether I’m eating the right foods to whether I should let the dog pull me on our walk to whether that little ache or pain was normal. This post is just what I needed right now! Thanks for the tips…hopefully I can spend a little me-time just relaxing and not worrying!

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  7. Jeanne

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    I started a Christmas tradition back in 2000 which I’m pleased to say I’m picking up on again: taking off Dec 23 through Jan 2, with nothing planned. Letting each day unfold as it needs to. Lots of time to lay on the couch and look at the pretty Christmas tree, wander in the woods, watch the clouds. You are so right!

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  8. VeggieGirl

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    LOVE yoga and de-stressing techniques.

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