This is my voice of reason. My voice of reason goes by the name 'Josh' and my voice of reason always knows just what to do. I am often told by people, either via email or when I bump into them that they were at a store, or a party, or a restaurant and they could hear my voice in their head saying "Do you really want to eat that?", or "Is that the best choice right now?" or "Is this helping to build your health?". This might be the very reason some of you prefer to do these healthy eating challenges in a group- it gives you a 'voice' to be accountable to.
I think it's funny that so many people's conscience has started to take on my persona. The truth is that what I share and teach, well, most of it is stuff we inherently already know. When I give presentations and people ask questions after, the exchange goes something like this:
"Meghan, That comment you made about conventional cheese-slices being as healthy as sidewalk gum you scrape of your shoe, so are you saying that we would be better off reducing our cheese intake all together and when we do have it, to instead enjoy great quality cheese like raw goat milk feta or something?"
I usually respond with a comment that goes something like this: "Hmmm... [I repeat question], An interesting question. What do you think?" And then everyone laughs because everyone knows the answer, we just hope that I will say what they want to hear, what they like to tell themselves, rather than what we all know to be true.
Now back to my Voice of Reason. I don't hear Josh's voice telling me what I need to eat. I know what I need to eat. I hear it when I need to simmer down, get more sleep, take more time to myself, sing a little song, do a little dance, make a little... uh... salad.
A couple weeks ago, I was stressed because I wasn't receiving any email and I knew I should just chill out about it because there was nothing I could do. Normally I would have thought 'What would Josh do" and the answer that would come to me would be something like "Go for a walk. Practice Yoga. Catch up on Gossip Girl" (Maybe I made that one up).
I asked Josh, "Oh Wise Voice of Reason, tell me, what would you do if you were in this situation".
And Josh said to me, "I'd probably be pretty stressed".
Of course this was not what I wanted to hear. I wanted him to tell me not to worry, that it would all get resolved, that it was no big deal, to look at the bigger picture. I wanted him to tell me what I inherently already knew.
No matter what personality we give to the Voice of Reason inside our heads, it always tells us what we already know to be true. We just have to get out of our way and learn to listen and to trust.
Incidentally, that photo up above, pretty much sums up Josh and I perfectly. Doesn't he just look the part of the voice of reason to my spinny-brain sillyness? It's about balance whether in the company we keep or the food we eat- going to our limit, but not beyond and using our own inherent wisdom to make the right choices and simply listen to our own Voice of Reason.
Photo by Zev Gitalis