Caregiving can be tiring and difficult, whether it’s your professional job or an upaid role as a caregiver for a parent, child, partner, or sibling. Some caregiving situations are temporary due to surgery, infections, broken bones or other injuries. Other caregivers are in it for a long haul, tending to someone with a chronic illness, cancer, physical or mental disability, dementia, arthritis, or many, many other conditions. It’s not easy and it’s something that has come to the forefront more than ever in recent months.
With the way the world is now, and likely going forward, it can start to feel like we’ve all moved into the role of caregiving in some ways. As the vulnerable people in our communities will need to rely more heavily on those of us who are more resilient, we must remember to also care for ourselves.
Caregiving isn’t going anywhere. The people who choose to care for others are often kind and generous, and their own needs get lost and forgotten. Let’s make sure this doesn’t happen by either giving extra special care to the caregivers in our life or making self-care a higher priority if you are a caregiver.
Self-Care tips for Caregivers
You’ve probably heard the expression: ‘You need to put your own oxygen mask on first’. But it can be challenging to put into practice when it seems like other people are struggling to breathe much, much more than you are. Still, there are a number of simple of ways you can focus on yourself no matter how chaotic life gets. Even if you only have an hour to yourself, you can make the most of it.
Self-care is obviously going to look different for every one of us. It’s not self-indulgent or selfish. We tend to think of self-care in terms of leisure or luxury, like going to the spa or taking an art class. These things can be part of self-care, but at its core, self-care is anything you do to take care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. It could be as simple as stopping for two minutes to drink a glass of water during a hectic day.
These are some things I consider core essentials for taking care of yourself.
Eat Well
Eating quality food is one of the foundations of good health. It offers us energy and the nutrients we need to support optimal health and build resilience. My tenets of good food include:
Organic whenever possible
Plant-based
Local/seasonal
Cooked from scratch
Gluten-free
Dairy-free
Sugar-free
Non-GMO
What you need might be different if you are following a specific diet like vegan or keto, but in essence, we need to be eating whole and unprocessed foods as much as we possibly can. If you’re in a time crunch, simple recipes like one-pot meals, freezer meals, elixirs, smoothies, chia puddings, hummus and veggies, and soups can be lifesavers. There are also many meal prep and meal delivery services that can help lighten your load.
Move Your Body
Try to move your body a little daily as this helps greatly with digestion, circulation, and immunity. You don’t need to do a full workout – even a 10-minute yoga practice or a short walk can be very effective. Many caregivers are on their feet a lot of the time, so a good stretch might be the best thing ever.
Caregiving is stressful and worrying. You need to do something to release the valve. Eating well, exercising, and fresh air will help support your mental health, and you can also try enjoying a hobby, connecting with friends, relaxing in a bath, using targeted herbs or essential oils, or meditation. It’s also important to meet stress head-on, which may mean talking to a professional, too.
You undoubtedly have a caregiver in your life and they will likely appreciate any help or support you can offer. If you’re not sure what to do or feel awkward, either ask the caregiver what they need or inquire with a close friend of that caregiver if you don’t want to ask them directly.
Drop Off a Meal or Snacks
Many caregivers get the food sorted for their patients or family members and don’t have the time to cook for themselves. A healthful meal, treat or snack is a great thing to offer. Some suggestions:
You could also provide them with a gift certificate to a meal delivery service, restaurant, bakery or juicery so they can choose what they want delivered.
Phone, Email or Text to Let Them Know You’re Thinking of Them
You don’t have to chat with your caregiver loved one(s) for hours, especially if they are crunched for time. But everyone likes hearing from their friends, family and colleagues to know that they are not forgotten and that you value them.
Listen
Sometimes the best thing we can do for others is to listen. It may seem like listening is ‘not enough’, but don’t underestimate the value of being a solid, non-judgmental and compassionate sounding board. Let the caregiver in your life talk and resist the urge to chime in with your personal experiences and advice unless specifically asked.
Ask What They Need
We can’t always predict what caregivers need, despite how well we know them. Offer to help in ways that will be most useful to them – maybe that’s raking their leaves, giving them a ride, providing childcare, or any multitude of other bits and bobs. You won’t know what they need most until you ask!
Verbally Appreciate Their Efforts
Sure, actions can speak louder than words in some situations, but the actual words matter too. Your words don’t have to be eloquent or perfect, but it’s important to directly state that you appreciate what someone is doing. ‘Thank you for…’ is a good place to start!
Make a Music Playlist for Them
If you’re of a certain age you probably remember how fun it was to get a customized mixed tape from best friends or boyfriends/girlfriends. Create a special music playlist. I like using Spotify for this and prefer including songs that are beautiful and uplifting, but you can obviously customize based on each caregiver’s preferences.
Give Them A Day Off or Join Them
Are you able to fill in for a day or even a couple of hours? Giving someone permission to take care of themselves, and helping them make it possible, could be the greatest gift of all. If you’re able to join them while they’re in duty, that alone could help ease the burden.
Offer Financial Support If You Can
We all probably know a caregiver who is overworked and underpaid. If you’re able, financial support like gift cards to places you know they shop regularly are very, very helpful. In other situations, you may feel comfortable offering a loan or an outright financial gift.
Caregivers provide valuable and essential services to both our loved ones and strangers – and you might need one sometime in the future. Let’s all demonstrate thoughtfulness, kindness and compassion to the people who are some of the most selfless in our communities.
On My Mind Episode 13: Caring for the Caregiver
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